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*cracks knuckles* Warning for rantiness and hyperbole
First, since I was recently told that I should never be offended by something that wasn't aimed at me, I'd like to say thank you. Really.
Second, IT IS THAT TIME AGAIN. Where I warn you that, shockingly, I am that annoying fangirl feminist type that thinks ruining your squee is fun. Sometimes, I even daydream it (like, frell, I had the whole day to think up this post, you guys.)
Third. Anastasia Dualla is more awesome than you and God, too.
Wait. That wasn't actually what I wanted to say, but that is pertinent to life, anyway.
Ahem. Because this apparently needs saying again (dude, two years, and you'd think the Kara/Sam people wouldn't pick up bad habits from the crazy Kara/Lee people [I SAID THE CRAZY ONES, not the nice, sane ones]). Anastasia Dualla is not stupid, weak, or a horrible example to women everywhere for giving Lee Adama a second chance (or for wanting to save her marriage).
Yes, I know. The rant I linked to is more geared towards knocking down the Sam Anders bashing arguments, but given that Dee and Sam are in the same position, it applies to both.
You can make the argument that Dee and Lee started their marriage on a lie, except, um, with that deleted scene, no it didn't.
You can make the argument that Lee never loved Dee, and I'll counter with "perception is in the eye of the beholder" because as far as I'm concerned Lee DID love her (we got nowhere near the development for them we got for Kara and Sam, which is sad. BUT NONE of the quadodoom got a lot of development outside of longing glances and ridiculous retcons).
You can make the argument that Kara was always honest with Sam, but Lee was never honest with Dee, and I will laugh in your face. Because, BULLSHIT. We know NOTHING but conjecture about their marriages.
What we do know?
Kara likes calling Sam for sex.
Lee hides in bars.
Dee calls him on his bullshit.
Sam sometimes calls Kara on hers, though less once he's a Cylon.
I would have more, but clearly, I'm hungry. ALSO. THERE IS GOING TO BE A SAM MINI-MATE. THERE IS A GOD.
In closing: there is a sexist double-standard in this fandom: Sam gets a free pass because he looooves Kara sooooooo much. And she loves him! So it's totally ok for him to forgive her and take her back. But Dee? Totally weak and stupid (and other words I would like to punch people for).
ALSO. Because it bears repeating: MARRIAGE IS NOT A FREE PASS TO HAPPY BUNNY LAND. Real marriages TAKE WORK. And shouldering that burden and trying to make it work? IS FAR STRONGER than just walking away. Not to mention, you can be 100% compatible and STILL FAIL at it.
(pls insert your own hyperbolic curse words as needed, I need pizza. *nom*)
Second, IT IS THAT TIME AGAIN. Where I warn you that, shockingly, I am that annoying fangirl feminist type that thinks ruining your squee is fun. Sometimes, I even daydream it (like, frell, I had the whole day to think up this post, you guys.)
Third. Anastasia Dualla is more awesome than you and God, too.
Wait. That wasn't actually what I wanted to say, but that is pertinent to life, anyway.
Ahem. Because this apparently needs saying again (dude, two years, and you'd think the Kara/Sam people wouldn't pick up bad habits from the crazy Kara/Lee people [I SAID THE CRAZY ONES, not the nice, sane ones]). Anastasia Dualla is not stupid, weak, or a horrible example to women everywhere for giving Lee Adama a second chance (or for wanting to save her marriage).
Yes, I know. The rant I linked to is more geared towards knocking down the Sam Anders bashing arguments, but given that Dee and Sam are in the same position, it applies to both.
You can make the argument that Dee and Lee started their marriage on a lie, except, um, with that deleted scene, no it didn't.
You can make the argument that Lee never loved Dee, and I'll counter with "perception is in the eye of the beholder" because as far as I'm concerned Lee DID love her (we got nowhere near the development for them we got for Kara and Sam, which is sad. BUT NONE of the quadodoom got a lot of development outside of longing glances and ridiculous retcons).
You can make the argument that Kara was always honest with Sam, but Lee was never honest with Dee, and I will laugh in your face. Because, BULLSHIT. We know NOTHING but conjecture about their marriages.
What we do know?
Kara likes calling Sam for sex.
Lee hides in bars.
Dee calls him on his bullshit.
Sam sometimes calls Kara on hers, though less once he's a Cylon.
I would have more, but clearly, I'm hungry. ALSO. THERE IS GOING TO BE A SAM MINI-MATE. THERE IS A GOD.
In closing: there is a sexist double-standard in this fandom: Sam gets a free pass because he looooves Kara sooooooo much. And she loves him! So it's totally ok for him to forgive her and take her back. But Dee? Totally weak and stupid (and other words I would like to punch people for).
ALSO. Because it bears repeating: MARRIAGE IS NOT A FREE PASS TO HAPPY BUNNY LAND. Real marriages TAKE WORK. And shouldering that burden and trying to make it work? IS FAR STRONGER than just walking away. Not to mention, you can be 100% compatible and STILL FAIL at it.
(pls insert your own hyperbolic curse words as needed, I need pizza. *nom*)
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I love Dee. One of the things I love about her is that she is a strong female character, but she still is very "feminine" in that she has a very soft, tender side, she's in tunes with her emotions, and she's a girl. I actually in many ways find Dee more relatable than some of the other strong female characters because she's the most like women I know. (Although Cally is the one I relate to most.)
I've been having fun writing her marriage with Lee, although I started in New Caprica, which is like THE WORST time to start with Lee because he was so depressed. But now that we're out of New Caprica, it's fun :)
I judge Lee harshly for cheating or nearly-cheating, whatever he wants to call it. Marital infidelity is a big one with me. However, I don't judge Dee for that, or for forgiving him. I honestly don't know what I'd do in that situation. (I actually have a scene coming up in my fic where I'm getting to argue about four different points of view on it.) On the other hand, I'd like to think that while I don't blame Dee, there were problems in their marriage that the two of them weren't confronting. (Which, given that they're both coping with an apocalypse, I think that's understandable.)
But you try to take Dee down, and you WILL regret it. ::grin::
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