I was thinking last night about this (sick kid, can't do anything else). And I think I'd have less a problem with the FrakkingEveryoneon NC!Kara (FENC!K?) if the bit in Collaborators with the tag hadn't been there. However we read it, it was a moment of CHANGE in their relationship -- she confessed she was angry and messed up and by giving her back the tag,he seemed to changing the terms of what had been before. He was going to be patient and not demand HIS Kara back, accept that she wasn't *there* at the moment.

But I can't work that moment into a verse where Kara was already straying, and where he'd already accepted something bigger than her being angry with more cause (I mean, if he accepts her infidelity because "It's just who she is", then surely the fact that she wants to hurt him because of her imprisonment is far more understandable). what the hell is she warning him about if he's already been there, done that, or does she think that her infidelity *doesn't* hurt him? it just doesn't fit together. (which is a big shock, I know)