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okay, now I'm feeling stupid.
But need to be enlightened.
Someone please explain to me why all m/f relationships are 'unequal'. I really,really don't get this statement.
Is it that the men always think the woman is a fragile flower?
Or is it that only one is on top all of the time, or what?
Because, I don't get it at all.
(and furthermore, don't get why f/f or m/m are 'equal' if m/f isn't.)
Someone please explain to me why all m/f relationships are 'unequal'. I really,really don't get this statement.
Is it that the men always think the woman is a fragile flower?
Or is it that only one is on top all of the time, or what?
Because, I don't get it at all.
(and furthermore, don't get why f/f or m/m are 'equal' if m/f isn't.)
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It's nice to hear this after my kertuffle over in another group, just recently. This is what I mean. There's a difference between validity and personal preference. I accept a statement of preference without question or judgement. On the other hand, I have a hard time not laughing at validation arguments.
IE: I write XYZ fic because it's better than ABC fic.
Nuh-uh. Pull the other one, you know? But then people see my reaction and assume it's because I'm one of those horrible intolerant people and then...
SUMO!
The end result is that I should go ahead and write that Catwoman fic where we find out that Batman (what with being macho and in charge all night long) is a dirty little sub in bed. Then I can explore power dyanamics, how some relationships work by always keeping power equal and others work by trading it back and forth. Both methods create a balanced dynamic, but they do it very differently.