okay, now I'm feeling stupid.

[lyssie]

But need to be enlightened.

Someone please explain to me why all m/f relationships are 'unequal'. I really,really don't get this statement.

Is it that the men always think the woman is a fragile flower?

Or is it that only one is on top all of the time, or what?

Because, I don't get it at all.

(and furthermore, don't get why f/f or m/m are 'equal' if m/f isn't.)

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If anything, I think I tend to invert them - the men are sensitive and the women kill things with guns.

I suspect the real issue at the heart of saying same-sex is the only way to subvert roles is the issue of bad writers whose characterization is cliched, and can't be trusted with writing a heterosexual relationship and keeping both characters in character. Put Jack and Sam in the hands of a bad writer, and she'll be making his beakfast and cooing over his babies, while he goes off to save the SG team. Put Jack and Daniel in the hands of a bad writer, and odds are you won't have that problem, and they'll both stay roughly like they are, because the writer won't assume the same gender cliches for a same-sex couple.