Ron still needs smacking, yes. And I'm down with judging Lee more harshly. It's just the judging Dee that makes me crankypants.

So I have never actually participated in the BSG fandom at large, but I thought Sam was also generally seen as weak for putting up with Kara's batshitery?

OH MAN. Dude. There is a WHOLE school of thought somewhere out there about how SAM IS AN ABUSED WIFE and stuff. It is HILARIOUS reading. In a "makes you want to stab your eyes out" way.

Mostly, because, co-opting a REAL PROBLEM to make their relationship (which, um, sorry, NOT abuse) look awful is sort of offensive.