Honestly I think its the fans who've made the who Kara winds up with the bigger question than the show has actually made it. They've made her relationships important but its not really about who she is screwing, its about her actually growing up enough to give a shit about Anders even when he may never be able to give anything back. As the ChicagoTrib writer said if Kara is ever able to really love anyone its a major step and I think that's where the show is trying to go. I think the dumb Bamber Bunnie types who only want Kara to be Lee's booby prize are making it that way. Honestly I think Katee wouldn't have been able to talk RDM into changing anyway if he had been completely satisfied with that ending. I know he's smarter than that, so it wouldn't surprise me if he saw a lot of the same flaws we did. I don't think he's ever been completely satisfied of how Lee has turned out and I think RDM loves Starbuck to much to let her settle for second best.